Deployment and boundaries.

Now that this deployment is nearing it's end (sort of), I have been thinking of how things need to be in the future. Me and Jeremy have each become more independent. I can't speak for him, but I feel changed, and more self reliant. Not in a bad way, I still love and need him very much, but I have surprised myself how much I really can handle. With that being said, I still have work to do. I'm getting better at setting boundaries with everyone, but I still revert back to my own ways where I let everyone say or do whatever, and put up with it. So I'm asking, again, to cut me some slack. Everyone I've talked to says reintegration is hard and I think some people don't know what's really going to happen when Jeremy comes home. First, he still has to work, for awhile depending on when he gets home. Second, it will take time for us to get used to living together again, and for how things have changed. Third, we need privacy while we're trying to figure these things out. You all know we love our family and friends, but we need to work all of these things out for ourselves. We value advice, but no one really knows what we have gone through but us, and unless you have been military yourself and either was deployed or had a spouse deployed you can't imagine. It's not a business trip, it's not like being apart for a week or month. It's watching the person you have committed you life to get on a bus and a plane, and you wonder if you will ever see them again. It's staying up to ungodly hours hoping for a phone call or an instant message. It's not seeing each other's face except for a blurry image on a computer screen. It's not kissing, hugging, or touching one another for eight months straight. It's sitting in a hospital bed, wondering if they have to admit me, no one is here for the baby or to take care of me. It's feeling alone. I'm not saying all of this for anyone to feel sorry for me, I'm only saying you may think you know but you have no idea. I don't claim to know everything about everyone's life, only you know the burden you bear. All I ask is for no one else to add to mine.