Parental Control

Lately I have been surrounded by people having marital issues because of parents of the husband or wife. I have experienced it as well. I am the parent of a baby, and don't know what it's like to have grown offspring, but I'm writing this to remind myself. You have to let your son or daughter handle their own marriage. When they get married they become a family, and when they have kids they need to figure out how to be parents. Some parents can be nice and helpful, but maintain boundaries and some have to be kept in the dark about much of what is happening because of drama. This is not a rare problem, and usually stems from a unusually strong attachment to their son or daughter, and the mindset they are still a child. Some parents have control issues, but the bottom line is the last thing you should want is to cause marital problems for your offspring. They have to cling to each other, and work things out together if they have a chance of making it. There is a reason marriage vows say forsaking all others. It's extremely painful when one runs to their parents while not communicating with each other. I'm not saying I know everything, but I know so many people with these problems that it breaks my heart. Get right if you want to be in your son or daughter's life.